Meet Mz. JewCee
August 22, 2023
We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Mz. JewCee a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Mz. JewCee, we’re thrilled to have you on our platform and we think there is so much folks can learn from you and your story. Something that matters deeply to us is living a life and leading a career filled with purpose and so let’s start by chatting about how you found your purpose.
I wouldn’t say, “I found my purpose.” I would say that my purpose found me. When I was in 7th grade, my homeroom teacher was the gym teacher and the sexual education teacher. Mr. Fellers was down to earth and had a way of speaking with young teenagers in a way that was more ‘equal/adult’ than I realized at the time. He had a passion for making sure we understood sex. That was the beginning for me, although I wouldn’t realize it until sometime later in life.
Being a sexually open female is something that can be frowned upon in our society. I come from a generation where sex wasn’t supposed to be ‘fun’ for women. Women simply had sex to have babies. Pleasure wasn’t talked about…at least not for women. Research was even scarce when it came to the pleasure zones on women’s bodies. Simply put, it was a ‘MAN’S’ world when it came to sex and to this day in some degree’s it still is.
My passion was born out of curiosity and a need to know and explore my own sexuality and pleasure. I could not wrap my mind around why men should have all the fun and women should be demeaned/shunned for enjoying sex. I didn’t believe in the double standard, and I didn’t believe that women should only have sex to please their partner and have babies.
In my heart of hearts, I knew this was wrong. I knew that women needed to be educated about what their bodies could/can do erotically and sexually. I knew that the antiquated thought process that women “should not” enjoy sex had to be changed. I knew that most women didn’t even know what their bodies could/can do yet rely on a “man” to know how to please them, when they themselves don’t know what truly pleases them.
Through the years my purpose became clear. Internally I fought the outdated thought processes that I had lived by, because I knew nothing else. I explored, I read, I learned, and I studied to improve not only my own sexual health, but to spread the knowledge I obtained to others. My passion became MY PURPOSE!
Thanks, so before we move on maybe you can share a bit more about yourself?
What I do is…talk to people about sex and sell adult toys. That three-letter word that so many people are afraid to mention. I’ve watched people blush or walk the other way out of embarrassment. The word SEX and/or even talking about sex makes a lot of folks uncomfortable and that to me is an issue in itself.
Sex is one of the best gifts we can share with one another or even solo. It should be as natural is drinking a glass of water, but alas it is not. From enjoying sex as, a couple to engaging in alternative sexual lifestyles, talking about sex is still a taboo subject and a subject that makes a lot of folks feel awkward and unable to express their desires.
The judgement that is placed on Sex Workers is unbelievable, especially since they are a viable part of our community. …in other words, Sex Workers ‘do’ what a lot of women/men won’t do for their partner. Alternative Lifestyler’s can’t share their kinks/fetishes in “mainstream” conversations because of course there is only ONE way to enjoy sexual pleasure/stimulation. Anything else may be considered inappropriate.
Adult toys make some men feel defensive. I’ve engaged with thousands of men over the years that will say things such as, “She doesn’t need that (an adult toy), she has me.” Not realizing that she is the one stopping and looking at my display at the event.
I’m in a business where I get ‘knocked’ down constantly. I’m not allowed to vend at some events because of what I sell – adult toys. We have been raised to believe that sex and anything to do with sex is great behind closed doors, but not out in the open where people can see that you just might enjoy pleasure.
Our Sex Education classes are outdated and inadequate. They only teach how to have a baby – as a matter of fact, they give you the step-by-step instructions. What I LOVE about what I am doing, is answering the questions that Sex Education and Society refuses to answer. Talking to women especially about their bodies and the beauty of knowing their own pleasure. Giving them a voice when they are with their partner so that they can be a viable part of their sexual activities. Letting men know that they should not be intimidated by a toy but learn to incorporate the toy into their sexy time.
I along with my Erotic Sisters (called the Erotic 7) put on Erotically Educational Events that affords an atmosphere where individuals, couples or groups can learn about the different lifestyles in a safe unjudgmental arena. From hands on training to panel discussions to seminars and demonstrations, there is something for everyone to enjoy at our Event.
The Ebony Erotic Experience is an Annual Event that is back on the books since COVID. This Event will be hosted in Cleveland, OH – October 27th & 28th, 2023. EEE is tailored for POC & their supporters. Our goal is to Educate, Enlighten and Engage our attendees, furthering their sexual education, their relationship goals and introducing them to a variety of opportunities in self-love and pleasure. Tickets are available on Eventbrite at: The Ebony Erotic Experience – The Second Cumming – Burlesque Edition.
EEE is a Labor of Love Event in which our Guests can be their sexual authentic selves. We encourage our guests to enjoy an atmosphere that is geared toward Erotic Education. There are so many myths and misinformation out on the world wide web and in other resources that it is paramount that we get Eroticism right for a change. All we ask of our guests is to keep an open mind and be ready to Enhance the Romance and learn something new about their Erotic Journey.
There is so much advice out there about all the different skills and qualities folks need to develop in order to succeed in today’s highly competitive environment and often it can feel overwhelming. So, if we had to break it down to just the three that matter most, which three skills or qualities would you focus on?
Well first as I mentioned before would be Mr. Fellers my homeroom teacher in Junior Hight School. Second would be my mother who also was an educator. She always told me, “To open the book and read it for yourself.” In other words, don’t always take things at face value or go by what other people are telling you. Do your due diligence and draw your own conclusions. Third my father who taught me to not wait on everyone else in order to do what I love to do.
As I look back on my journey to become secure in what I’m teaching others, I have to take a moment to reflect on these three individuals that gave me the strength and the courage to step into what is truly not a popular arena. I get more no’s when it comes to selling adult toys at functions than I care to admit. People are very closed minded when it comes to even having the conversation about sex. I watch people practically break out in a spring past my vendor table when I set up. I see the faces of people when they figure out what I’m selling. I can see the change in people’s mindset when I begin to ask them questions about their sexual education and where they got their thoughts from if they have never tried something sexual before.
I’ve taken the time to get the formal education, but most importantly I’ve taken the time to stop, look and listen in my own sexual journey. I can relate to the antiquated thought process when it comes to sex, because I’ve been there, and I broke free of the ‘sexual box’ that someone else built for me.
The best way to improve yourself is to never say never. Always be willing to learn and to let go of thought processes that serve others best and you in the least.
One of our goals is to help like-minded folks with similar goals connect and so before we go we want to ask if you are looking to partner or collab with others – and if so, what would make the ideal collaborator or partner?
I am ALWAYS looking for people that are Sex Positive to work with and collaborate with. From talking on podcasts/broadcasts to working on events that will educate people about various Lifestyles and Sexual Health.
I can be reached at: jewceetales@gmail.com or 872-221-0430 (Google Business Number) if you are interested in collaborating and/or having Mz. JewCee at your next Event.
Contact Info:
- Website:jewceetales.com
- Instagram: mzjewcee
- Facebook: Dara MzJewcee Smith https://www.facebook.com/dara.smith.969/
- Twitter: MzJewceeOne
- Youtube: mzjewceeone
Image Credits
Mz. JewCee’s Photo: Studio 57 Photography
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