Tag: Relationships

Queens…can we talk?  …although every situation is different, it is time that we take an honest look at our Crowns. Are we causing our crowns to tilt, fall to the side or be less valuable? The time to fix Your Crown is now! The crown that you wear should be: Straight, Purposeful & True.

For far too long we have allowed our crowns to tilt to the side where doubt, deception and disloyalty can pull our crowns from our heads. We are no longer the steadfast backbone that is needed in our own lives. Our crowns have slid to the side, backwards and even been taken off our heads by our own hands. Our crowns have been surrendered as we lack the character and courage to hold our reign.

We have allowed ~ (Yes Mz. JewCee said: ALLOWED) – ourselves to settle and become docile in our rolls as Queens. We have fallen into the trap of uselessness and lack-luster appreciation. We entertain the fool instead of The King. We have become complicit in our resolve to achieve our dreams and goals.  Our fear of being successful overshadowed by the fear of failure.

We look to ‘others’ to remedy what we have created. Yet the others that we find solace in are not able to give us sound advice and/or lead us to the promise land, as they too are in no position to afford us the wisdom that we need in order to reclaim our crown. Their advice is tainted by their own set of declining circumstances.

So how do you reclaim your Crown? Here are 3 simple steps to begin your journey…

1. Straight: Move forward in a direction that is toward the betterment of you
2. Purposeful: Show your determination and resolve to accomplish your desires and goals
3. True: Be honest and straight forward with yourself – even when it is difficult and the truth hurts

When you move with purpose and honesty – your gaze is looking forward to the future, your Crown will return to its proper position. When your gaze is in the past, expect your crown to fall backwards or even fall off. In other words, distractions are everywhere and they come in all shapes and sizes!

Take the time to know what you want out for your Life. The Relationship you have with yourself is the most important one. Allow yourself time to heal, grieve and laugh. Set goals that you can achieve…start small and add-on gradually. Have the same expectations for yourself that you expect from others. In other words, do what you say you are going to do for yourself – whether it is to lose weight or save money. Hold YOURSELF accountable. We often hold others to a higher standard. It is time that we hold ourselves to the same standard.

Most Queens have the strength and ingenuity to set and reset their Crowns…some just need a little push or encouragement. All Crowns slip from time to time, but the object is not to let them stay out of place too long. When you feel your crown slipping and you feel that some assistance is warranted, Mz. JewCee recommends Counseling and/or a Mentor. Our family and friends are great resources for some things, but when you are looking to make strides in a different direction and/or better yourself – consider the source.

Queens let us Fix Our Own Crowns so that WE may be the leaders of tomorrow. Let us better ourselves and rejoice in our ability to rule our Queendoms!

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