Anal Orgasm

…and unclench those butt cheeks…

Anal Sex is the one topic that Mz. JewCee knows that a disproportionate amount of women feel uncomfortable talking about. A variety of responses and looks, is always presented when this topic comes up. …so with that said, Mz. JewCee wants everyone that reads this Blog to keep an open mind… …and unclench those butt cheeks…

Anal Sex/Anal Play isn’t every woman’s preferred sexual position of choice. This is due in part to myths, rumors and a lack of knowledge. Some women love it, while others don’t care for it at all. Let Mz. JewCee start with this tidbit of information ~ anal sex/anal play has been a sexual act for thousands of years. When properly executed, anal sex/anal play can be quite pleasurable. An anal orgasm is one of the most powerful orgasms’ a woman can achieve.

Let’s leave the fiction for the movies and delve into some FACTS regarding anal sex/anal play so that you may achieve an Anal Orgasm. The anus and rectum are close to the vagina and clitoris. They share many of the same nerves and muscles, including the PC (pelvic floor) muscle. The PC muscle is highly sensitive for many women and stimulating it can trigger a vaginal orgasm and an anal orgasm.

Best Anal Positions for Women:

  1. Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl
  2. Butt Lifted Missionary
  3. Backdoor Side by Side
  4. On Bended Knee

During anal penetration, especially for beginners, being in a position of control is vital to the pace and comfortability of the receiver. All of the positions listed above, give a receiver more control when it comes to the speed and depth of penetration. The receiver can direct their partner through touch and verbal communication. The receiver is able to assist with instructions on the speed of penetration and the depth.

In addition for a successful anal encounter…please, Please, PLEASE ~ use the PROPER Lube! …in other words…SPIT AIN’T IT! Leave that to the porn stars…this is real life action and you want your partner to enjoy the experience.

Lubrication is a vital sexual aid when it comes to the comfort level of a receiver. The anal canal does not secret fluid – thus the reason for additional lubrication. A water based lube is ok, but will have to be applied repeatedly often disrupting the anal play session. The best lubrication to utilize is a silicone based lube. Silicone lubes come in a variety of thicknesses. The thicker the silicone lube, the less times you would need to apply it. …take your time and choose what works for you and your partner.

**Mz. JewCee does not recommend lubricants with desensitizing/numbing properties. Desensitizing/numbing lubes can mask pain, which is your bodies way of letting you know something is wrong. Mz. JewCee does recommend the use of a condom(s). **

Note: Check your condom packaging for what lubricants it is compatible with.

Anal Sex/Anal Play can be very pleasurable for many women. Partners need to be in tune with your body and Clear ~ Concise ~ Communication is a factor that cannot be ignored. Before jumping into this Erotic position, have an open and honest conversation about the expectations. Make sure that your partner is knowledgeable about anal play and create a Sensual Safe Space ~ by creating a safe word to discontinue the anal session should any discomfort arise. …take it from Mz. JewCee the time to discuss you and your partners expectations for anal sex/anal play IS NOT while you are participating in the sexual act!

Women that actively participate in anal sex/anal play report that powerful orgasms abound! An anal orgasm along with clitoris stimulation can produce a Blended Orgasm that is quite powerful! The key to anal satisfaction is KNOWLEDGE ~ NOT LEGEND!

Remember to: Educate, Explore and Execute.

Enjoy ~ Enlighten ~ Embrace ~ Eroticism

How To Give Your Partner a Rusty Trombone the Right Way

Every now and then Mz. Jewcee runs across an article that she finds very informative.  …not to mention, the article usually teaches this ‘ol dog’ a new trick or two.  NEVER STOP LEARNING & EDUCATING yourself! Thanks Shakir!!

From: Cosmopolitan 2/17sexopedia-rustytombstone-1478013235-1-1487369735

Get yourself a rim job that can do both.

There are two types of people in this world: those who know what a rusty trombone is and those who don’t. If you’re in the second group, congratulations, you’re about to join the first! A rusty trombone is the act of giving a rim job (the “rusty” part) and a hand job (the “trombone” part) at the same time — simultaneously licking your partner’s anus and reaching around to give them an HJ.

The name is admittedly silly. “Rusty trombone” sounds like an urban sex legend rather than a real thing you could do with your partner tonight. And you could do this tonight! And it could be very hot! The combination of anal and penile stimulation can be explosive for the receiver and make the giver feel like a sex goddess.

Ostensibly few couples are doing the RT (rusty trombone, let’s make this acronym a thing) on the reg, though. It’s more common in porn than in people’s IRL sex lives, not just because people don’t know what it is but because anal play can be intimidating. But it doesn’t have to be. Ahead, expert tips on how to play your own trombone at home.

1. Talk with your partner about if/how the RT will play out.

Hint: chances are the rimming will be the hornier thornier issue.

Surprise butt stuff is never, ever a good idea. Like ever — so don’t sneak it into sex to see how your partner reacts, discuss it first. “See if they’re open to trying it,” sex educator and former porn performer Kelly Shibari advises. “If they are, discuss everything from cleanliness to how far they’re willing to go — rimming only? Rimming and a tongue in there? Rimming and a finger? No tongue-rimming but they’re cool with a lubed finger circling the outside?” Get super specific, then stay the course when the action starts unless you talk about switching it up.

If you’re not even sure how to start that conversation, “Honestly, articles like this are a great way to break the ice,” Shibari points out. Some straight dudes are worried that butt play is “only for gay guys,” she sighs, even though enjoying prostate stimulation has literally nothing to do with your sexuality. It can be helpful to parse some of these stereotypes with your guy before diving in. If the conclusion of the convo is that they’re just not interested, that’s cool too! But if they are, proceed to step two.

2. Have your partner clean up, but they don’t need to douche.

Shibari tells me that she’s really only ever rimmed guys in porn before — and that there are benefits to this. “Male performers on a porn set are tested, showered, shaved pretty much everywhere,” she says. “You don’t really have any surprises lurking there” — for example, an unexpected forest of hair or lurking fecal matter. Sorry for that, but we’re talking about ass play here. If you’ve made it this far, you knew what you were in for.

And on that note, while showers or at least baby wipes can help you and your partner feel more comfortable about analingus, remember that “it’s unrealistic to expect that a butthole be 100% free of any smells or tastes,” sex educator and founder of Spectrum Boutique Zoë Ligon says. “I discourage folks from anal douching simply because it is very harsh on the body’s natural anal lining.”

3. You might want to take off your lipstick for this one.

When rimming, “I always opted for a bare lip, or rather, by the time things got around to that on set, my lipstick was pretty gone,” Shibari laughs. “Anything you have on your lips will probably end up on your cheeks, because butt cheeks.” She says to avoid goopy lip glosses, and points out that you can use your free hand to gently push one butt cheek away to keep lube / spit / your Chapstick from smearing all over your face. Although it might end up there anyway. If you were looking for a neat and tidy sex move, you came to the wrong article.

4. Play an overture before you get to the trombone symphony (ugh sorry, foreplay, I’m talking about how you should do foreplay).

“I highly recommend lots and lots of teasing before going straight for the asshole,” sex therapist Vanessa Marin says. “The whole backside area is full of nerve endings, so you don’t want to miss out by going straight for the asshole itself.” She suggests kissing, licking, and stroking that sexy curve between your partner’s thighs and butt cheeks, massaging their cheeks with your hands, and exploring their butt crack and perineum with your fingers. This’ll help them relax and be more receptive to your tongue and lips.

5. You can use lube on both sides, but definitely use it for at least the hand job.

While your rim job will have the lubrication of at least your saliva, the hand-penis combo has no such luck. Squeeze a little lube into your hand and, if you like, apply a little to your partner’s anus before the RT. “In general, I’m not a fan of flavored lubes because they can have some gross chemicals in them,” Marin says, but if you do want to try flavored lube, she recommends Wicked Sensual Care’s body-safe line, as does Shibari. (Mint chocolate chip and salted caramel? I mean, why not?) As far as the hand job goes, lube will reduce friction, meaning more fluid, pleasurable motions. Opt for a silicone or hybrid lube, since it tends to last longer on skin.

Why Use A Butt Plug?

Mz. Jewcee’s Erotic Empire continues to grow, because EDUCATION is key to unleashing your inhibitions. Mz. Jewcee understands that ‘some’ topics are a bit uncomfortable to talk about even to this day. So many myths and misinformation floating around, many people miss out on their own pleasure.  Either they have tried a sexual experience once and it was not pleasurable…so they never tried again or they have never tried a sexual experience because someone else has “told” them it’s bad and/or not the right thing to do.

…so when will we learn to try something more than one time and make adjustments to make it work for our situation? Mz. Jewcee has said this before…and will say it again, WE HAVE TOO MANY PEOPLE IN OUR BEDROOMS!

Keep the FIRE in your relationship by trying something to spice it up! …after all…your relationship is what YOU make it!  …with that said…below is a very basic, but informative video that was sent to me all the way from across the pond!  (Mz. Jewcee LOVES the fact that she is becoming an International Sensation! ~ who knew)

Thank you Elizabeth Morris of Carvaka Sex Toys for reaching out to Mz. Jewcee!