Queens… Fix Your Own Crown! (Part 1)

Queens ~ Fix Your Own Crown

Queens…can we talk?  …although every situation is different, it is time that we take an honest look at our Crowns. Are we causing our crowns to tilt, fall to the side or be less valuable? The time to fix Your Crown is now! The crown that you wear should be: Straight, Purposeful & True.

For far too long we have allowed our crowns to tilt to the side where doubt, deception and disloyalty can pull our crowns from our heads. We are no longer the steadfast backbone that is needed in our own lives. Our crowns have slid to the side, backwards and even been taken off our heads by our own hands. Our crowns have been surrendered as we lack the character and courage to hold our reign.

We have allowed ~ (Yes Mz. JewCee said: ALLOWED) – ourselves to settle and become docile in our rolls as Queens. We have fallen into the trap of uselessness and lack-luster appreciation. We entertain the fool instead of The King. We have become complicit in our resolve to achieve our dreams and goals.  Our fear of being successful overshadowed by the fear of failure.

We look to ‘others’ to remedy what we have created. Yet the others that we find solace in are not able to give us sound advice and/or lead us to the promise land, as they too are in no position to afford us the wisdom that we need in order to reclaim our crown. Their advice is tainted by their own set of declining circumstances.

So how do you reclaim your Crown? Here are 3 simple steps to begin your journey…

  1. Straight: Move forward in a direction that is toward the betterment of you
  2. Purposeful: Show your determination and resolve to accomplish your desires and goals
  3. True: Be honest and straight forward with yourself – even when it is difficult and the truth hurts

When you move with purpose and honesty – your gaze is looking forward to the future, your Crown will return to its proper position. When your gaze is in the past, expect your crown to fall backwards or even fall off. In other words, distractions are everywhere and they come in all shapes and sizes!

Take the time to know what you want out for your Life. The Relationship you have with yourself is the most important one. Allow yourself time to heal, grieve and laugh. Set goals that you can achieve…start small and add-on gradually. Have the same expectations for yourself that you expect from others. In other words, do what you say you are going to do for yourself – whether it is to lose weight or save money. Hold YOURSELF accountable. We often hold others to a higher standard. It is time that we hold ourselves to the same standard.

Most Queens have the strength and ingenuity to set and reset their Crowns…some just need a little push or encouragement. All Crowns slip from time to time, but the object is not to let them stay out of place too long. When you feel your crown slipping and you feel that some assistance is warranted, Mz. JewCee recommends Counseling and/or a Mentor. Our family and friends are great resources for some things, but when you are looking to make strides in a different direction and/or better yourself – consider the source.

Queens let us Fix Our Own Crowns so that WE may be the leaders of tomorrow. Let us better ourselves and rejoice in our ability to rule our Queendoms!

Enjoy – Enlighten – Embrace – Eroticism

Anal Orgasm

…and unclench those butt cheeks…

Anal Sex is the one topic that Mz. JewCee knows that a disproportionate amount of women feel uncomfortable talking about. A variety of responses and looks, is always presented when this topic comes up. …so with that said, Mz. JewCee wants everyone that reads this Blog to keep an open mind… …and unclench those butt cheeks…

Anal Sex/Anal Play isn’t every woman’s preferred sexual position of choice. This is due in part to myths, rumors and a lack of knowledge. Some women love it, while others don’t care for it at all. Let Mz. JewCee start with this tidbit of information ~ anal sex/anal play has been a sexual act for thousands of years. When properly executed, anal sex/anal play can be quite pleasurable. An anal orgasm is one of the most powerful orgasms’ a woman can achieve.

Let’s leave the fiction for the movies and delve into some FACTS regarding anal sex/anal play so that you may achieve an Anal Orgasm. The anus and rectum are close to the vagina and clitoris. They share many of the same nerves and muscles, including the PC (pelvic floor) muscle. The PC muscle is highly sensitive for many women and stimulating it can trigger a vaginal orgasm and an anal orgasm.

Best Anal Positions for Women:

  1. Cowgirl or Reverse Cowgirl
  2. Butt Lifted Missionary
  3. Backdoor Side by Side
  4. On Bended Knee

During anal penetration, especially for beginners, being in a position of control is vital to the pace and comfortability of the receiver. All of the positions listed above, give a receiver more control when it comes to the speed and depth of penetration. The receiver can direct their partner through touch and verbal communication. The receiver is able to assist with instructions on the speed of penetration and the depth.

In addition for a successful anal encounter…please, Please, PLEASE ~ use the PROPER Lube! …in other words…SPIT AIN’T IT! Leave that to the porn stars…this is real life action and you want your partner to enjoy the experience.

Lubrication is a vital sexual aid when it comes to the comfort level of a receiver. The anal canal does not secret fluid – thus the reason for additional lubrication. A water based lube is ok, but will have to be applied repeatedly often disrupting the anal play session. The best lubrication to utilize is a silicone based lube. Silicone lubes come in a variety of thicknesses. The thicker the silicone lube, the less times you would need to apply it. …take your time and choose what works for you and your partner.

**Mz. JewCee does not recommend lubricants with desensitizing/numbing properties. Desensitizing/numbing lubes can mask pain, which is your bodies way of letting you know something is wrong. Mz. JewCee does recommend the use of a condom(s). **

Note: Check your condom packaging for what lubricants it is compatible with.

Anal Sex/Anal Play can be very pleasurable for many women. Partners need to be in tune with your body and Clear ~ Concise ~ Communication is a factor that cannot be ignored. Before jumping into this Erotic position, have an open and honest conversation about the expectations. Make sure that your partner is knowledgeable about anal play and create a Sensual Safe Space ~ by creating a safe word to discontinue the anal session should any discomfort arise. …take it from Mz. JewCee the time to discuss you and your partners expectations for anal sex/anal play IS NOT while you are participating in the sexual act!

Women that actively participate in anal sex/anal play report that powerful orgasms abound! An anal orgasm along with clitoris stimulation can produce a Blended Orgasm that is quite powerful! The key to anal satisfaction is KNOWLEDGE ~ NOT LEGEND!

Remember to: Educate, Explore and Execute.

Enjoy ~ Enlighten ~ Embrace ~ Eroticism

Blended Orgasm

…your climaxes do not have to be one-dimensional.

Mz. JewCee has spoken with women that did not realize that they have had a Blended Orgasm. The term is a way of showing the multifaceted way that orgasms can be obtained. In other words, your climaxes do not have to be one-dimensional. …so lets get educated… Ladies ~ Class is in Session!

Can you handle two, three or even four times the intensity of a single erogenous zone orgasm? If you have answered YES, then this orgasm is for you! Just imagine being taken to the stratosphere physically, mentally and spiritually. Your body tingling and climaxing in multiple areas all at the same time. Euphoria engulfing your very being. You can feel the adrenaline high taking over your entire body as you succumb to waves of pleasure. Gasping for air as you attempt to feel every caress ~ every kiss, unable to escape your throbbing clit ~ your erect nipples now sensitive to the touch ~ your anal muscles clinching. You feel the fluid release from deep inside of you…

This isn’t an erotic novel or even a porn movie; this is actually happening to you! A Blended Orgasm is a climax that happens when more than one erogenous zone is being stimulated at the same time. 

Examples of Blended Orgasms:

  1. G-spot penetration along with clitoral touching is one of the most common Blended Orgasms.
  2. Simultaneously executing vaginal penetration, clitoral stroking, nipple play, and anal stimulation can result in the ultimate Blended Orgasm!

Studies show that increased blood flow due in part to enhanced stimulation to the erogenous zones, contributes to higher arousal levels and ultimately a stronger more intense climax/orgasm. Blended Orgasms can occur during a self-exploratory session as well. Mz. JewCee always recommends self pleasuring yourself so that when you and your partner are together you are able to guide them through a more satisfying Erotic Encounter. Knowing what turns you on is liberating and powerful in so many ways.

If the sky is the limit…shoot for the Ecstasy moon!

Best Position for a Blended Orgasm: The woman on top position (Cowgirl), because your hands and your partner’s hands are free to touch your clitoris, breasts, or butt. You can always add a vibrator into the mix for added stimulation (JewCee Boutique).

Enjoy ~ Enlighten ~ Embrace ~ Eroticism

G-Spot Orgasm

The G-spot is an erogenous area of the vagina

Did you know that Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg a male Gynecologist of German decent and Jewish heritage is accredited with discovering the G-Spot as well as inventing the Intrauterine Device (IUD)? In addition there is also evidence to suggest that research on the G-Spot started as early as the 16th Century by Dr. Regnier de Graaf of Holland. …wanted you to know that Mz. JewCee did her research on this topic…

The G-spot is an erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and potential female ejaculation. Although, typically reported to be located 5–8 cm up the front vaginal wall (between the vaginal opening and the urethra) every woman is built differently. The G-Spot may feel ridged, rippled and/or spongy. The area cannot be seen, but can be felt when a finger is inserted into the vagina and pressed forward. Moving the finger in a come-here motion may start to stimulate the G-Spot and the Skene’s Gland that is reported to be located around the urethra area. The importance of the Skene’s Gland is that it collects fluid that can be expelled through the urethra during orgasm.

Note: Research suggests that there are multiple glands containing fluid that are located either within and/or behind the vaginal wall that secrete fluids of various consistencies during sexual stimulation and orgasm/climax.

Pressing this spot gently and stroking it lightly can prime the G-Spot for orgasm. When aroused, similar to the clitoral stimulation, the G-Spot area will fill with blood and become more sensitive to the touch of a finger, penis and/or a vibrator. The sensation of being touched during this arousal period may result in what many women describe as a deeply intense, shaken-to-the-core kind of climax! Each woman’s experience with G-Spot stimulation is unique. Some women have reported stimulation ranging from euphoric to irritating. …so once again – this isn’t the end-all and be-all for every women…

It is important to mention that as tempting as it may be to lump ALL women into one category of pleasure, a woman’s personal pleasure development, sexual experience and sensation levels vary from female to female/woman to woman. This may not be the most productive way to think about sex and pleasure, but it is the honest way to be inclusive to ALL women. When you are able to normalize the down-side of orgasms for a specific area, this will allow you and your partner to explore other erogenous avenues to find what truly inspires you to free yourself orgasmically.

Mz. JewCee understands that for far too long Women have internally beat themselves up because of the ‘allusive’ orgasm. These women have felt the burden of shame or felt that they are not “normal” or not good enough. These women have felt the pressure of trying to make their partner feel competent and ‘all pleasuring’, when in fact their partner could be the one that does not have the knowledge on how to please her.

Once again Mz. JewCee stresses the importance of knowing your body… Remember to: Educate, Explore and Execute. What you discover about your sexual arousal can be enlightening and freeing at the same time. …after all…Sex Should Be Fun!

Enjoy ~ Enlighten ~ Embrace ~ Eroticism

Are You Sexually Informed?

Do you consider yourself to be Sexually Informed? Are you open to NEW Sexual Horizons or are you stuck in a rut? How do you keep your relationship FRESH & EXCITING?

With so much information available regarding sex now-a-days, one would think that no one is sexually uneducated, but you would be surprised the number of people that are. Talking about sex is still an awkward conversation to have and Mz. Jewcee has seen the proof each time she does a show…

We are still very under enlightened when it comes to sex and talking about it openly and honestly still makes certain people squirm in their seats!  In addition, there are a lot of people that have a lot of misinformation when it comes to sex as well. From not knowing their bodies to not knowing how to be satisfied.  …and let me just say this ~ it’s not just women that are sexually frustrated because they don’t know their bodies – men too have the same issue.

Why is that, especially in this day in age with sex so prevalent on the internet and in media, one would think that we have FINALLY arrived at the sexual revolution! …but we have not… There are still too many folk that are not educated in desire and what satisfies them sexually. There are still women that believe that the only time to have sex is to further the human race. There are still men out there that know how to cum, but are missing out on that intimacy that comes along with having a strong and solid relationship.

So how do we fix this? How do we make this better? KEEP EDUCATING and INFORMING! Allow yourself the opportunity to have an open mind when it comes to sex. Be willing to learn new things and try new ideals in order to keep your sexual relationship healthy. …and my favorite “ingredient” to add to this mixture of Eroticism, Enhancement and Sensuality is…COMMON SENSE!  Too often we look to someone else to give us the answer to our own personal questions about sex. We want a quick fix and/or solution. We are busy looking at our partner for our sexual satisfaction, yet not sharing with them what truly makes us satisfied.

Remember, that your satisfaction is based on you. If you don’t know what satisfies you, your partner won’t know either.