Every now and then Mz. Jewcee runs across an article that she finds very informative. …not to mention, the article usually teaches this ‘ol dog’ a new trick or two. NEVER STOP LEARNING & EDUCATING yourself! Thanks Shakir!!
From: Cosmopolitan 2/17
Get yourself a rim job that can do both.
There are two types of people in this world: those who know what a rusty trombone is and those who don’t. If you’re in the second group, congratulations, you’re about to join the first! A rusty trombone is the act of giving a rim job (the “rusty” part) and a hand job (the “trombone” part) at the same time — simultaneously licking your partner’s anus and reaching around to give them an HJ.
The name is admittedly silly. “Rusty trombone” sounds like an urban sex legend rather than a real thing you could do with your partner tonight. And you could do this tonight! And it could be very hot! The combination of anal and penile stimulation can be explosive for the receiver and make the giver feel like a sex goddess.
Ostensibly few couples are doing the RT (rusty trombone, let’s make this acronym a thing) on the reg, though. It’s more common in porn than in people’s IRL sex lives, not just because people don’t know what it is but because anal play can be intimidating. But it doesn’t have to be. Ahead, expert tips on how to play your own trombone at home.
1. Talk with your partner about if/how the RT will play out.
Hint: chances are the rimming will be the hornier thornier issue.
Surprise butt stuff is never, ever a good idea. Like ever — so don’t sneak it into sex to see how your partner reacts, discuss it first. “See if they’re open to trying it,” sex educator and former porn performer Kelly Shibari advises. “If they are, discuss everything from cleanliness to how far they’re willing to go — rimming only? Rimming and a tongue in there? Rimming and a finger? No tongue-rimming but they’re cool with a lubed finger circling the outside?” Get super specific, then stay the course when the action starts unless you talk about switching it up.
If you’re not even sure how to start that conversation, “Honestly, articles like this are a great way to break the ice,” Shibari points out. Some straight dudes are worried that butt play is “only for gay guys,” she sighs, even though enjoying prostate stimulation has literally nothing to do with your sexuality. It can be helpful to parse some of these stereotypes with your guy before diving in. If the conclusion of the convo is that they’re just not interested, that’s cool too! But if they are, proceed to step two.
2. Have your partner clean up, but they don’t need to douche.
And on that note, while showers or at least baby wipes can help you and your partner feel more comfortable about analingus, remember that “it’s unrealistic to expect that a butthole be 100% free of any smells or tastes,” sex educator and founder of Spectrum Boutique Zoë Ligon says. “I discourage folks from anal douching simply because it is very harsh on the body’s natural anal lining.”
3. You might want to take off your lipstick for this one.
When rimming, “I always opted for a bare lip, or rather, by the time things got around to that on set, my lipstick was pretty gone,” Shibari laughs. “Anything you have on your lips will probably end up on your cheeks, because butt cheeks.” She says to avoid goopy lip glosses, and points out that you can use your free hand to gently push one butt cheek away to keep lube / spit / your Chapstick from smearing all over your face. Although it might end up there anyway. If you were looking for a neat and tidy sex move, you came to the wrong article.
4. Play an overture before you get to the trombone symphony (ugh sorry, foreplay, I’m talking about how you should do foreplay).
“I highly recommend lots and lots of teasing before going straight for the asshole,” sex therapist Vanessa Marin says. “The whole backside area is full of nerve endings, so you don’t want to miss out by going straight for the asshole itself.” She suggests kissing, licking, and stroking that sexy curve between your partner’s thighs and butt cheeks, massaging their cheeks with your hands, and exploring their butt crack and perineum with your fingers. This’ll help them relax and be more receptive to your tongue and lips.
5. You can use lube on both sides, but definitely use it for at least the hand job.
While your rim job will have the lubrication of at least your saliva, the hand-penis combo has no such luck. Squeeze a little lube into your hand and, if you like, apply a little to your partner’s anus before the RT. “In general, I’m not a fan of flavored lubes because they can have some gross chemicals in them,” Marin says, but if you do want to try flavored lube, she recommends Wicked Sensual Care’s body-safe line, as does Shibari. (Mint chocolate chip and salted caramel? I mean, why not?) As far as the hand job goes, lube will reduce friction, meaning more fluid, pleasurable motions. Opt for a silicone or hybrid lube, since it tends to last longer on skin.
r how hard we try as a gender to overcome the stigma’s that go along with being sexually active, the negative stereotypes still exist. What Mz. Jewcee finds particularly interesting is, those stereotypes are more deep rooted with women then with men.
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