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Being comfortable in your own Erotic Skin is imperative. Allowing yourself the freedom to choose sexually just how Sensual & Sexy you wish to be is a joy to behold!
I meet so many people that are so worried about what other people will think, that they miss out on moments in time that could improve their relationships. I’ve also met so many people that have been controlled and contained within someone else’s box of what sex s
hould be that they have lost their Erotic way! …from when to have sex to what positions to have sex in – to what to enjoy sexually. Every aspect of their sexual being is REALLY controlled by someone else’s opinion. …and some don’t even realize it.
When I sit down and talk to women in particular about why they won’t try anal sex or a threesome or give head – I pretty much know the answer that they are about to give and how that answer developed in their mind. It is obvious in our conversation that they have been “told” by either a close friend or a family member that whatever they are about to embark in is “nasty”, painful, or simply just frowned upon. …because OF COURSE these folks have TRIED EVERYTHING! …yeah right…
Simply put, they have allowed someone else – who by the way has not even tried any of the above mentioned scenarios, but have a negative ‘opinion’ about them – to dictate how awful it would be to even “try” any of the acts of pleasure. It always amazes me how quickly these ladies take on the views of someone else without even seeing for themselves what they are missing.
I travel around dispelling rumors and innuendo with regards to sex in an attempt to allow people to step out of their sexual box that someone else has created for them. What amazes me is, so many people have the same “hang-ups” when it comes to sex and for the same reason…someone “told” them this was bad.
I was taught to: Open the book and read it for myself. …and my favorite: An opinion is like an asshole, everyone has one. …so how do we get out of the confinement of the sexual box that someone else built?
Well the first step is to know that you’re in that box. If you’re not fulfilled, if you feel that something is missing, if you want to try new erotic adventures – GO FOR IT! Do your own research. Find like-minded people. Step out and away from that box. Allow yourself to breathe in the aroma of sexuality. Close your eyes and visualize yourself being enlightened. Explore new positions and the various realms of the Lifestyle.
…this is not to say that you will like everything you try Erotically, but at least you will have formed your own opinion and taken that step of being comfortable in your own Erotic Skin.
I read a very intriguing article called: ‘When you want to be into BDSM but it’s too soon because you’re black.’ …it got me to thinking…
My first thought was…How soon is too soon? I thought that slavery was abolished and WE as a people were free to enjoy life to the fullest? …or are WE??
I thought…these hang ups can’t be real – not in today’s world?? I have successfully been a part of the BDSM world for years and “never” thought twice about slavery — or did I?
I wo
n’t be called a slave and I’m not calling my Dom “Master”… …yeah I may have appeared to forget all about the oppression of my race, but deep down and by my own actions and deeds – that wasn’t totally true and it took this article to make me realize how I had ‘tricked’ myself into believing that the crimes against my race decades long past – did not have anything to do with me…
This article really got me to thinking – especially because as I speak with women of color and they discover that I’m a submissive in the BDSM world – they too want to learn to be more submissive or find it hard to submit. Maybe there is a deeper underlying current of events that make it a bit more difficult for Black Women to submit. Maybe it’s the cries of our ancestors after being bound, beaten and raped. Possibly there is a deeper spiritual calling that only speaks to us in the corners of our minds.
To be quite honest, until I read this article I did not fully understand why so many women want to submit but fear what submission will do to them. I get the profoundness of our past and that our past should not be forgotten, our past does not always have to repeat itself in a negative way.
The BIGGEST misconception about a submissive or slave in the BDSM world is that – all the bondage, the flogging, the penetration is being done AGAINST their will. We have ALL SEEN the tears of a spanking – the redness of the paddled area and the slobber of a gag ball… These images may very well be the REASON that people compare these actions to those of slavery.
…but let me point out the difference…
Oppression Slavery – is/was against a persons will. They did not give consent. There was no pleasure derived from being enslaved.
BDSM is DIFFERENT – in the fact that what happens to a submissive or slave is discussed and agreed upon. There are “safe words” in place to keep everyone on the same page of pleasure. …and YES, I SAID PLEARUSE… Some people get pleasure from pain. They ENJOY being tied up, feeling helpless, losing control, spanked, gaged and even humiliated if it is done my their Dom/Domme.
There is no wrong or right way to practice BDSM – although some of the more extreme members may say differently… How you and your partner choose to enjoy this realm of the Lifestyle is entirely up to the two of you. I’ve never had to use the word “Master”. My Doms have allowed me to call them King, My Dom and Mr. …this was one of the sticking points for the author of the article and I can understand why, but there are other words that can be used to show Respect and the hierarchy of your BDSM relationship.
I can empathize with the article, but in my own way I’ve learned to enjoy this Lifestyle and allow it to change me as a person. In this day in age, I ENJOY submitting to a King. The safeness, the closeness, the trust that is involved is unmatched. I will not let the ghosts of the past (as important to me as they are) not allow me to enjoy the pleasures of my future. Submission is a gift that should be treated as such.
To my Black Strong Women ~ WE have evolved. Clinging to the past – even a past as important to our growth as a race, can distract you from a pleasurable future. Certainly NEVER FORGET ~ but learn what time period you are in now. Step into the future boldly. Explore your desires with an open heart and an eagerness to learn. Let go of the “box” that someone else has placed you in. Break the chains of oppression with a wondrous look at freedom – the freedom of submission. Allow yourself the opportunities to enjoy pleasure beyond your wildest dreams. In order for that to happen you must be WILLING to learn all of the pleasures that a BDSM Lifestyle holds for you
SEX is that double edged sword that can cut the heart out of a relationship with a single swipe or give a relationship that added oomph! When we talk about SEX and relationships we have to add a lot of factors into the mix. Emotions, perception, wants and desires, kink and freakiness as well as frequency and ability. I also would throw in drive and ambition to satisfy your partner.
Looking at all of these f
actors, affords us the opportunity to really delve into the importance of SEX in a relationship. Remember, over 20% of committed relationships fail due to SEX – either not enough or too much. If SEX is important enough to end the most sacred of relationships – a marriage, shouldn’t we take a deep look at its effect on a relationship and recognize the significance that sex has on a relationship?
Many people will say that SEX isn’t the glue that holds their relationship together. Yet let their partner step out on them and have sex with another person and all bets are off! Now you may say that it’s the sneaking and the lying that cause a person who is cheated on to end the relationship and normally I would be inclined to agree with you, but I want to take this a step further… If all the person is doing is having SEX why does it destroy a marriage? Is it because they are only supposed to have SEX with their partner? After all this is the same person that does not believe that SEX is that important…so why does it matter that their partner decides to have sex with someone else? I mean…if the person is not getting what they want at home and there is a deep divide in sexual activity – why shouldn’t they be allowed to “step-out” on their partner to satisfy their sexual cravings with one that is willing to fulfill their needs? Why are we shocked and appalled when we know unequivocally that we are not having sex on a regular basis?
In other words, you can’t be upset if a partner has sex outside the relationship when you act and feel that SEX isn’t important to your relationship. People that cheat in their relationships have a reason – it may not be a good one to the person that is cheated on – but it is “logical” to the person that cheated.
I’m not saying by any stretch of the imagination that people that cheat should get a pass, but what I am saying is…as long as we keep considering SEX as an afterthought to our relationships or treat it as a chore instead of a way to enhance our bond with that person we cherish. …as long as we keep saying, “Sex isn’t important in my relationship. I can take it or leave it.” …as long as we deny ourselves the pleasures and the euphoric feeling that comes from having SEX… …as long as we belittle SEX in such a way that demoralizes its very existence, the percentages will continue to rise and we will continue to be dissatisfied within our own sexual relationships.
The battle rages inside of us. With all of the boundaries securely in place regarding sex – from family and friends to church and state – we have lost our passion and desire. Sex can become mechanical and mundane. Exploring a new horizon outside of the parameters set by outsiders can bring upon great shame. The internal struggle is real. Do we stay true to our “values” or do we unleash the sexual creatures that we are?
I say…UNLEASH! It’s okay to say that SEX IS IMPORTANT! It’s okay to want GREAT SEX! It’s okay to step up your SEX game! It’s okay to try something new to rekindle the passion that you and your partner deserve in your sex life! It’s okay to make SEX a PRIORITY!
Being able to submit comes from a place of power. A submissive that understands that power can be transferred to another and you are able to keep your dignity, is an indisputable force. Today I focus on the female side of submission in discussing strong women that submit. I can only speak on my own enlightenments and the lessons learned which I hope assists individuals that choose this path.
There are stro
ng women who enjoy submitting to a man. Now not just any man, but a man that they see as their equal and a man that they know can take charge. The male that they submit to will also see them as their equal and as a woman that is willing to entrust them with the power of control for a short period of time/a long period of time (based on their Dom/sub relationship/status).
Becoming a strong woman does not happen over night. To me a strong woman is cultivated over time through her own life experiences. How she handles her life and herself will determine where her strength comes from. The woman that finds her strength that has been forged deep within her soul will stand stronger against the obstacles that life has to offer. Her strength is represented through a quite confidence that does not need a lot of fan fare, for she knows what she has gone through to get to this point in her life. Armed with this knowledge, the discovery that her power/strength can be relinquished to one that is worthy is undeniably enticing.
As a strong woman in the role of a submissive, my choice is not be at a Doms feet, for I clearly understand the inference of this position within the realm of the Lifestyle. Instead I chose to be by my Doms side for the support that he will need throughout his life. Being a woman of strength and secure in both my worlds POWER & SUBMISSION my submission is given willingly for both servitude and supremacy.
There are still a lot of misconceptions out there about a subs place/position. Individuals that choose to participate as a sub need to be informed. There are different levels of submission and before committing and running around saying you are a sub, know more about what you want from this realm of the Lifestyle.
Being a sub of strength has allowed me to see that many subs are unknowing and are following a blueprint that is unfamiliar to them. This realm of the Lifestyle is not just a role that is played behind closed doors or in the bedroom its not about how freaky a sub can be nor is it a role that is played when it is convenient for the sub. The submissive Lifestyle is a dutiful position that should be adhered to at ALL times! Even for a woman of strength, this Lifestyle is a balancing act, but because she is secure in whom she is and secure in what she is, she will be able to manage both worlds.
I have stated it before and I will state it again there is more then one way to submit. You simply have to find what is comfortable for you.Once you find that comfort level one that you have created through learning who and what you are, NOT the box version that someone else has created, then a TRUE Dom will appreciate and accept you readily.
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