Being able to submit comes from a place of power. A submissive that understands that power can be transferred to another and you are able to keep your dignity, is an indisputable force. Today I focus on the female side of submission in discussing strong women that submit. I can only speak on my own enlightenments and the lessons learned which I hope assists individuals that choose this path.
There are strong women who enjoy submitting to a man. Now not just any man, but a man that they see as their equal and a man that they know can take charge. The male that they submit to will also see them as their equal and as a woman that is willing to entrust them with the power of control for a short period of time/a long period of time (based on their Dom/sub relationship/status).
Becoming a strong woman does not happen over night. To me a strong woman is cultivated over time through her own life experiences. How she handles her life and herself will determine where her strength comes from. The woman that finds her strength that has been forged deep within her soul will stand stronger against the obstacles that life has to offer. Her strength is represented through a quite confidence that does not need a lot of fan fare, for she knows what she has gone through to get to this point in her life. Armed with this knowledge, the discovery that her power/strength can be relinquished to one that is worthy is undeniably enticing.
As a strong woman in the role of a submissive, my choice is not be at a Doms feet, for I clearly understand the inference of this position within the realm of the Lifestyle. Instead I chose to be by my Doms side for the support that he will need throughout his life. Being a woman of strength and secure in both my worlds POWER & SUBMISSION my submission is given willingly for both servitude and supremacy.
There are still a lot of misconceptions out there about a subs place/position. Individuals that choose to participate as a sub need to be informed. There are different levels of submission and before committing and running around saying you are a sub, know more about what you want from this realm of the Lifestyle.
Being a sub of strength has allowed me to see that many subs are unknowing and are following a blueprint that is unfamiliar to them. This realm of the Lifestyle is not just a role that is played behind closed doors or in the bedroom its not about how freaky a sub can be nor is it a role that is played when it is convenient for the sub. The submissive Lifestyle is a dutiful position that should be adhered to at ALL times! Even for a woman of strength, this Lifestyle is a balancing act, but because she is secure in whom she is and secure in what she is, she will be able to manage both worlds.
I have stated it before and I will state it again there is more then one way to submit. You simply have to find what is comfortable for you.Once you find that comfort level one that you have created through learning who and what you are, NOT the box version that someone else has created, then a TRUE Dom will appreciate and accept you readily.