Many of us have suffered a broken heart at one time or another. The tears flow. We may over eat or not eat at all. Some people are unable to get out of bed. Some individuals destroy property. …and some people take their own lives. Then there are those “strong” individuals who act as if nothing has happened and forward they move with their ‘brokenness’ locked tightly away.

However you choose to deal with the break up of a relationship, you must remember – no matter how ‘strong’ you appear to be on the outside, there are steps to healing a broken heart.

Each person heals differently. Some people are “quick” to move on, while others take a longer period of time to move forward. The amount of time or the amount of commitment may play a factor in how much time you need to heal. …but heal you must in order to truly be able to move forward.

For a lot of us, our relationship ending is just like the death of a family member. There are relationships in which you can see the end is near and there are relationships that slowly fizzle over time and there are relationships that end before they really get started. Whatever the length of time, if you have invested your time, energy, effort and money into your relationship, the probability that you will be hurt when it ends is very likely. …unless of course your not that invested in the relationship and that could be the reason its over.

Much like the death of a loved one, the death of a relationship can affect us the same way. There are so many emotions raging at one time when a life ends and when a relationship ends…(if you take a deeper look, your relationship is a LIFE form). We can grieve over a failed relationship just like a lost loved one.

5 Stages of Grieving:

• denial
• anger
• bargaining
• depression
• acceptance

I write this today for those of you that are going through a difficult time in your relationship. I write this for those of you that are struggling with the end of a relationship and your wondering why you are feeling the way you do.

As in everything on this earth, there is a ‘process’ – a ‘formula’. Now that you know what the process/formula is, you can better navigate your way towards acceptance and moving forward. You can’t know where you are going unless you know where you have been

…and believe me when I say, A LOT OF US HAVE BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT DID NOT WORK OUT.…so you are not alone. Time will allow your broken heart to heal. Understanding your feelings will allow you to recover in a manner that is productive and meaningful.